Compassionate Neighbours
We recently had the pleasure of connecting with Dariusz Wedge. Dariusz helps to coordinate the Compassionate Neighbours Service at St Columba’s Hospice Care in Edinburgh. As well as Compassionate Neighbours, they also run Compassionate Gardeners, where volunteers help with light gardening duties while offering companionship. Both are community-based services that support people living with a terminal diagnosis. This is done by offering them regular emotional and social support through in person connections with volunteers.
Compassionate Neighbours
Both Tribe and the work Dariusz contributes to at St Columba’s Hospice Care hold the value of community at its core. We both believe passionately that we are all stronger, more resilient and better connected when we come together. Compassionate Neighbours changes lives, yours and the people you connect with.
Becoming a Compassionate Neighbour can be hugely rewarding during which time you can build genuine friendships with local people. The service matches you with socially isolated, lonely and who may have a life limiting condition.
Meet Carol and Iain
Carol, a regular visitor to Iain through the Compassionate Neighbours programme, knew how much he missed attending live performances. Since mobility challenges had made concerts and theatre outings difficult, she decided to bring the music to him.
With her characteristic warmth and energy, Carol enlisted her friend, musician Madeleine Sjöstrand, to organise a private concert tailored to Iain’s tastes. The event took place at Portobello and Joppa Church, complete with a specially printed programme in German—reflecting Iain’s fluency in the language. The afternoon was rounded off with coffee and cake, making it a truly memorable experience.
Deeply moved, Iain later wrote about how much the gesture meant to him. He recalled early visits with Carol, where they often discussed their love of music and the arts. Recognising how much he missed live performance, Carol and Madeleine came together to make the impossible possible. You can read more here.
How does it work?
Once you have registered your interest, the team takes the time to match you based on common interests, lifestyles and experiences. Where possible they keep matches in local communities.
Once you’ve applied, they arrange a very informal interview where you can find out more about the service and they can get to know you better. The onboarding process is straightforward – they ask for two references (these don’t need to be professional/work ones) and they will carry out a PVG (Protection of Vulnerable Adults) Scotland check, the costs of which are covered.
They ask new volunteers to attend two “Shared Learning” sessions (it is called it this because they recognise that everyone brings their own valuable knowledge and life experience):
- First session: In-person, around 3 hours. The session covers the modern hospice movement, how and why Compassionate Neighbours started, who they support, safeguarding, boundaries, lone working, and their matching process.
- Second session: Online, 1.5 hours. Here they look at communication, self-care, and conversations around the concept of a good death.
After training and checks, volunteers are asked to be patient while the right match is found. Sometimes this happens quickly; other times it can take longer. They take into consideration shared interests, values, distance, and any specific requests (such as gender or faith). Sometimes, due to illness, people’s circumstances change before a match can happen, which can add to the wait.
Once matched, visits are usually around one hour a week, either at the person’s home or somewhere outside, depending on preference. Some pairs prefer to meet less often but for longer.
Matches are not time-limited – they last as long as they’re wanted and needed. The first ever match lasted 3 years and 8 months. Unlike many clinical settings where friendships are discouraged, it is actively encouraged if they happen naturally – and they often do, which is wonderful to see.
You can become a compassionate neighbour by committing just one hour of volunteering a week. Alongside the time you spend with your neighbour you will be guided by experts through mentorship and training. As well as connecting with someone in your community, you have the opportunity to meet other Compassionate Neighbours through our regular get-togethers and peer support. You’ll be invited to regular drop-in sessions, hospice training and information sessions and access to counselling and chaplaincy if needed.
Compassionate Gardeners
Compassionate Gardeners runs alongside the neighbours campaign and seeks folk that can offer both companionship and light gardening duties. The programme seeks folk who can offer a little TLC to the gardens of people living at home with an end-of-life diagnosis and help restore them to what they once were. Sharing the joy of the garden through the seasons, Compassionate gardeners add so much to the wellbeing of the garden owners in the most precious of times.
Here’s what some of our current volunteers have said about their experience:
“I thought the idea was that I would visit and offer some good cheer and conversation each week—but it’s me who leaves on a high every time. It’s a tonic for both of us.”
“As I was leaving, Neville said, ‘what a great morning this has been with you visiting’—and I knew he really meant it.”
How to get involved
The Compassionate Neighbours Team are committed to building strong and resilient communities, where local people feel confident to offer social and emotional support in their communities. This is never more important than during times of isolation, deteriorating health, grief, loss or bereavement.
You can apply by clicking this link: Compassionate Neighbours Volunteer – St Columba’s Hospice Palliative Care, Edinburgh or by emailing Dariusz Wedge at DWedge@stcolumbashospice.org.uk or Maggie Young at myoung@stcolumbashospice.org.uk.
Join us for Coffee Morning
On Tuesday 2nd September we will be hosting an extra special Coffee Morning to support St Columba’s work and the Compassionate Neighbours programme. Join us for a warm and meaningful coffee morning as we welcome Dariusz Wedge from St Columba’s Hospice Care to Tribe Porty.
Tribe Members can join us between 10-11AM for extra special croissants and sweet treats. We will have QR codes for you to make direct donations to St Columba’s and you will have the opportunity to connect with Dariusz and ask any questions you may have.
We will then open up to the general public between 11AM-12PM where you can drop in to meet Dariusz and find out more about the programme.
Whether someone has years, months, weeks, or even days left, knowing that someone cares enough to show up can be deeply comforting. And for volunteers, the friendships they form are just as meaningful.
Come along, enjoy a cuppa, meet your fellow Tribe members, and discover how small acts of kindness are helping people live more fully, right up to the end.
The Dead Curious Cafe
If reading the above has stirred unfamiliar emotions, fears, or grief, and you feel the need for open conversation, you’re warmly invited to join Loretta Dunn at The Dead Curious Café.
Open conversations around death and dying are often confined to the realms of bad news, frequently in a medical environment, when the conversation becomes unavoidable. There is merit in normalising the subject of death to open up a wider perspective on the important aspects of living our best life. Many people avoid thinking about death, which can create fear and discomfort. Open discussions help normalise death, making it less of a taboo and allowing people to approach it with more acceptance and peace.
This is a safe and nurturing environment, where participation is encouraged, and mutual respect is a given.
Your facilitator is Loretta Dunn, a Life Celebrant and retired nurse, with many years of experience working with bereaved families and people at the end of life.
- Thursday 4th September
- Thursday 2nd October
- Thursday 6th November
- Thursday 4th December
Thanks for reading,
Alice
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