From Small Beginnings to a Thriving Community
Small Beginnings
Tribe Porty was bootstrapped into existence with just £10,000 from an Awards for All grant. That tiny seed allowed us to create rooms, hallways, secure entries, windows, and fireproofing, just enough to begin.
I was still working full-time, quietly piecing it together in every spare moment: applying for social enterprise grants, writing business plans, pitching, painting walls, and reaching out to local people and groups who might share the vision.
We launched Tribe alongside TEDxPortobello: Seeing Things Differently. After eleven months of hard work, pitching, borrowing, and asking for every kind of help imaginable, we sold out in under three minutes and streamed to 139 countries. It was epic, a genuine community effort in every sense.
“Not all things grow loud. Some grow steady, wide, deep, and full of meaning.”
Finding Our Ground
When Earthy tried to sell their business, and our lease with it, without telling us, we knew we needed more security. Thankfully, our landlord, a local who believes in good things happening in Portobello, gave us the chance to take over the whole building in 2018.
It needed everything: new doors, windows, central heating, kitchen, toilets. We took out a loan with Social Investment Scotland to make it possible. We’re proud to say we’ve finally paid it all off. We were also 3 years in and had a healthy and growing community so expanding was very welcome.
A Decade in the Making
Eleven years ago, Tribe was just an idea, born while setting up Trade School Edinburgh with Johanna Holtan and working with SENSCOT, the Social Entrepreneurs Network Scotland. Ten years ago, it was an empty, chaotic building needing skips and imagination. By 2018, we were still recovering from the aftermath of Earthy’s collapse.
With no funds to begin, we built Tribe piece by piece from donated and reclaimed materials. Every table, wall, and floorboard tells a story. Every inch of Tribe has been shaped, and reshaped by hand.
Built by Many Hands and Big Hearts
For a decade, I’ve had the joy of working with the same team of joiners, painters, electricians, plasterers, and plumbers. They’ve poured so much care into Tribe that it feels like theirs too, and I love that.
Every inch of Tribe has been shaped by community. Just as the building has been built by its people, so too has its spirit. Tribe has always been about belonging, a place where you can walk through the door and feel at home, whether it’s for a day, a week, or a decade.
This milestone marks ten years of something that’s never been flashy or headline-grabbing, but deeply meaningful. It also marks a personal one for me: I’ve now lived exactly half my life in America and half here in Scotland. Being an immigrant is complicated, but it’s also a gift.
I arrived in Scotland on a work permit to help establish a company delivering applied behaviour analysis, something new here but well known at UCLA. Later, I gained an HSMP visa and eventually indefinite leave to remain. Half my life has been lived here, and Tribe Porty has been a big part of why it feels like home.
Finding Home & Community
Growing up, I was quiet, one or two close friends, shy until my twenties. When I moved to Edinburgh, someone introduced me to her circle and suddenly I was surrounded by people. For the first time, I felt adopted into a community and it changed me.
That feeling of connection has been at the heart of Tribe since day one. When we launched TEDxPortobello in 2015, I was again surrounded by extraordinary volunteers and speakers. Tribe and TEDx have brought countless generous, kind, and creative people into my life.
“To know you matter to others, and that they matter to you, that’s everything.”
Standing on Its Own And Doing Small Things With Love
Today, Tribe is fully self-sustaining. We receive no government funding, we proudly pay corporation tax, and we employ a small, brilliant team. Tribe stands as proof of what can happen when people show up with purpose and care.
Members may come and go, but once you’ve been part of Tribe, you’re always part of its story. Old faces and new ones together weave the fabric of who we are. We often underestimate how powerful it is to feel part of something positive; to know you belong and that your presence matters.
Tribe has always been more than the sum of its parts. Every person adds something essential, and in doing so, becomes essential.
My very first Tribe business cards read: Do small things with love. I still believe in that. Tribe Porty isn’t a multimillion-pound enterprise, but it’s rich in meaning.
Tribe was never about me, it’s about everyone. Every person who has passed through our doors has left a mark. The one who recommended Tribe to a friend. The one who organised a dinner. The one who quietly invited others in. Together, we’ve built something lasting.
Looking Ahead
As we enter winter and the close of our tenth year, Tribe begins a new chapter. It’s an uncertain time for small businesses, and yet, the need for community and genuine, in-person connection has never been greater.
For ten years, Tribe has been a place to pull up a chair, share ideas, break bread, and build connections that last far beyond these walls. Around our tables, friendships have formed, collaborations have taken root, and a community has flourished.
Beyond One Person
It feels good, and deeply right, to know Tribe is strong without me. That’s always been the point: to create something that could stand, grow, and evolve on its own.
Tribe is now its own living thing. Each new person changes it, strengthens it, and carries it forward.
So, thank you. To everyone who has helped build Tribe into what it is today, and what it is still becoming. Not all things grow loud. Some grow steady, wide, deep, and full of meaning.
With love and gratitude,
Dani
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Be Well & Connect
A Programme for Living Well
Can you feel it? The whisper of a chill upon the breeze, the soft crunch of leaves beneath your feet, the early dimming of the afternoon sky? Autumn is upon us, offering a quiet invitation to slow our pace, to soften into stillness, and to prepare for the ancient turning of the season. In this ever-rushing, hyper-digital world, many of us (myself included) have forgotten how to yield to the seasons. How to ease ourselves gently into the deepening days of autumn and the quiet hush of winter. But autumn is a threshold, a passage from the outward to the inward, from doing to being.
This October at Tribe Porty, we invite you to embrace a slower rhythm through Be Well & Connect. A programme for living well. Through gatherings crafted with care and woven with movement, mindfulness, and creativity, we’ll rekindle our connection to self, to community, and to the present moment. Be Well & Connect is a space to tend to both body and spirit, to root into shared experience, and to remember what it means to move through the seasons with cultivated softness.
Join us as we come together to build a healthier, more connected community.
Sauna Chats with Kirsty from Soul Water Sauna
Friday, October 10th, 6pm-7:30
We’re excited to collaborate with Kirsty, founder of Soul Water Sauna, Sauna Master, and a passionate advocate for sauna culture and community wellbeing.
Kirsty will be joined by our Community Support Assistant, Sonny, for an informal chat about all things sauna, community, connection, and the magic that happens when people gather with intention. Learn more about how Soul Water Sauna is creating spaces for healing and belonging. Plus, hear about the ‘Saunahood’ Pay-It-Forward initiative, making sauna experiences more accessible to all.
Come along, bring your questions, grab a cuppa, and settle in for a warm, welcoming session. This is a Pay What You Can event, with all proceeds supporting Saunahood.
Mindfulness & Visionboarding
Monday, 20th October, 6pm-7:30pm
As we move into the quieter months of autumn and winter, take some time to reflect and set your intentions for the rest of the year. Join us for a Mindfulness & Vision Boarding session, where we’ll begin with a guided meditation to help you explore what you truly want and where you’re heading as we enter this new season.
Through this calming practice, you’ll connect with your inner clarity and focus on the goals that matter most. Then, using the creative practice of vision boarding, we’ll bring those intentions to life in a creative and visual way, giving you a clear roadmap for the months ahead.
To make this session more accessible, you will have the option to either create your vision board with paper-based materials (all provided) or digitally on your own personal laptop using Canva.
Morning Cuppa & Meditation
Every Friday in October
Begin your day with stillness and presence. Every Friday morning in October, join us for a gentle guided meditation over a warm cup of tea or coffee. In just 10-15 minutes, we’ll create a space to quiet the mind, reconnect with the body, and set a calm tone for the day ahead. No rush, no pressure – just a moment of peace to start your morning.
No need to pre-book, just come along to reception at 9:30 AM.
**For Tribe Porty members.**
Tribe Porty Sea Dip
Wednesday, October 15th at 5:30pm
Release the tension of the day and recharge with the healing power of cold water therapy. Join us for an invigorating after-work sea dip at Porty Beach, where the cold waters will help boost circulation, reduce stress, and leave you feeling deeply refreshed. Whether you’re new to cold water therapy or a seasoned pro, this session is a great opportunity to experience the benefits of cold immersion in a supportive community setting.
No need to pre-book, meeting at Tribe Porty Reception where you are welcome to leave your belongings.
Moment of Stillness Massage with Jo Craven from Portobello Natural Health
Friday October 3rd & 31st
Come to stillness for a moment during your workday and soothe your nervous system. This treatment combines amma fusion compression massage of the whole body with head massage, foot massage or both (your choice). Lying down, fully clothed, no oil. Be aware head massage may result in funky hair!
£10 for 15 minute session. Limited spaces so book early to avoid disappointment.
Be Well & Connect
Can you feel it? The whisper of a chill upon the breeze, the soft crunch of leaves beneath your feet, the early dimming of the afternoon sky? Autumn is upon us, offering a quiet invitation to slow our pace, to soften into stillness, and to prepare for the ancient turning of the season.
In this ever-rushing, hyper-digital world, many of us (myself included) have forgotten how to yield to the seasons. How to ease ourselves gently into the deepening days of autumn and the quiet hush of winter. But autumn is a threshold, a passage from the outward to the inward, from doing to being.
This October at Tribe Porty, we invite you to embrace a slower rhythm through Be Well & Connect. A programme for living well. Through gatherings crafted with care and woven with movement, mindfulness, and creativity, we’ll rekindle our connection to self, to community, and to the present moment.
Be Well & Connect is a space to tend to both body and spirit, to root into shared experience, and to remember what it means to move through the seasons with cultivated softness.
The curation of events for Be Well & Connect includes:
Sauna Chats with Kirsty from Soul Water Sauna
Friday, October 10th, 6pm-7:30
A relaxed conversation with Kirsty, founder of Soul Water Sauna, and me as we chat about all things sauna culture, community, and the healing power of intentional connection.
This session is open to all.
Mindfulness & Visionboarding
Monday, 20th October, 6pm-7:30 pm
A Mindfulness & Vision Boarding session, where we’ll begin with a guided meditation to help you explore what you truly want and where you’re heading as we enter this new season. Using the creative practice of vision boarding, we’ll bring those intentions to life in a visual way, giving you a clear roadmap for the months ahead.
This session is open to all.
Tribe Porty Sea Dip
Wednesday, October 15th at 5:30 pm
Release the tension of the day and recharge with the healing power of cold water therapy. Join us for an invigorating after-work sea dip at Porty Beach, where the cold waters will help boost circulation, reduce stress, and leave you feeling deeply refreshed. Whether you’re new to cold water therapy or a seasoned pro, this session is a great opportunity to experience the benefits of cold immersion in a supportive community setting.
This session is for Tribe Porty Members only.
Moment of Stillness Massage with Jo Craven from Portobello Natural Health
Friday, October 3rd & 31st
Come to stillness for a moment during your workday and soothe your nervous system. This treatment combines amma fusion compression massage of the whole body with head massage, foot massage or both (your choice). Lying down, fully clothed, no oil – pure bliss.
This session is for Tribe Porty Members only.
Morning Cuppa & Meditation
Every Friday morning in October from 9:30am
Begin your day with stillness and presence. Each Friday morning our, join us for a gentle guided meditation over a warm cup of tea or coffee. In just 10-15 minutes, we’ll create a space to quiet the mind, reconnect with the body, and set a calm tone for the day ahead.
This session is for Tribe Porty Members only.
A Gentle Breathing Practice to Soothe
Box Breathing is a simple and effective breathwork practice that can be done anywhere, at any time. It is used to soothe the nervous system, calm the mind, and ease your natural rhythm of breath.
Practice Box Breath with me:
Close your eyes or hold a heavy gaze towards the floor, and take a few slow, full, deep breaths.
Inhale through your nose for 4-3-2-1
Hold the breath at the top of your inhale for 4-3-2-1
Release the breath slowly through your nose for 4-3-2-1
Retain (hold the breath) empty at the bottom of your exhale for 4-3-2-1
Repeat 3 times or as many times as you would like.
Why cold water swimming?
Cold water swimming might sound a little wild at first, especially somewhere like Scotland, but it’s really a delightful combination of nature, resilience, and pure joy. The icy plunge sends a rush of endorphins and dopamine dancing through your body, leaving you fizzing with a natural high that can rival your morning coffee. Your circulation kicks into overdrive, your immune system gets a playful nudge, and that nagging stress you might be carrying seems to wash away with the ripples of the water.
Beyond the science, though, there’s something wonderfully human about braving the chill with others. From laughter echoing across the loch or sea, friendships and companionship are strengthened by shared squeals and shivers. And let’s not forget the poetry of it: the sting of water against skin, the breathless awe of open skies, the rhythm of waves flowing all around you. Cold water swimming is equal parts challenge and celebration, a chance to remind yourself that you’re alive, tough, and maybe just a little wild yourself.
Want to learn more about the joy of cold water swimming? Check out Edinburgh’s own Anna Deacon & Vicky Allan’s book Taking the Plunge: The Healing Power of Wild Swimming for the Mind, Body & Soul.
Podcast Recommendation
‘As the Season Turns’ was created by Ffern and narrated by nature writer Lia Leendertz
One of my absolute favourites that I listen to at the beginning of every month, but I find it even more special to listen to at the turn of the season. A new episode is released on the first of each month and is a guide of what to look out for for the month ahead. Whether it be sounds or sights of nature or important aspects of the lunar cycle, this podcast takes you on a sensorial journey you are bound to enjoy.
Check out the podcast by clicking here
Poem for Contemplation
How I go to the woods
Ordinarily, I go to the woods alone, with not a single
friend, for they are all smilers and talkers and therefore
unsuitable.I don’t really want to be witnessed talking to the catbirds
or hugging the old black oak tree. I have my way of
praying, as you no doubt have yours.Besides, when I am alone I can become invisible. I can sit
on the top of a dune as motionless as an uprise of weeds,
until the foxes run by unconcerned. I can hear the almost
unhearable sound of the roses singing.If you have ever gone to the woods with me, I must love
you very much.Mary Oliver
How to get involved
If you are a member of Tribe Porty check your inbox for our latest issue of Inside Tribe. This provides you with all of the booking links and details. Alternatively, nip by reception and ask our team. You can view our public events by clicking here.
You’re warmly welcome to take part in our members-only events by either booking a one-day pass or signing up for a monthly membership during October.
To book a one day pass, click here and complete the booking form. By registering for the relevant day you will be more than welcome to join in with the morning meditation sessions, massages with Portobello Natural Health or sea dip.
If you are only interested in the morning meditation sessions you are more than welcome to book our off peak pass which gives access 9AM-1PM on Friday’s. Click here to book. Spaces are limited so book ahead to avoid disappointment.
Planning to attend more than one Be-Well & Connect session? You may want to consider one of our membership options. You are more than welcome to join us for just the month of October. Click here for more details.
Thank you ever so much for reading,
Sonny
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Compassionate Neighbours
We recently had the pleasure of connecting with Dariusz Wedge. Dariusz helps to coordinate the Compassionate Neighbours Service at St Columba’s Hospice Care in Edinburgh. As well as Compassionate Neighbours, they also run Compassionate Gardeners, where volunteers help with light gardening duties while offering companionship. Both are community-based services that support people living with a terminal diagnosis. This is done by offering them regular emotional and social support through in person connections with volunteers.
Compassionate Neighbours
Both Tribe and the work Dariusz contributes to at St Columba’s Hospice Care hold the value of community at its core. We both believe passionately that we are all stronger, more resilient and better connected when we come together. Compassionate Neighbours changes lives, yours and the people you connect with.
Becoming a Compassionate Neighbour can be hugely rewarding during which time you can build genuine friendships with local people. The service matches you with socially isolated, lonely and who may have a life limiting condition.
Meet Carol and Iain
Carol, a regular visitor to Iain through the Compassionate Neighbours programme, knew how much he missed attending live performances. Since mobility challenges had made concerts and theatre outings difficult, she decided to bring the music to him.
With her characteristic warmth and energy, Carol enlisted her friend, musician Madeleine Sjöstrand, to organise a private concert tailored to Iain’s tastes. The event took place at Portobello and Joppa Church, complete with a specially printed programme in German—reflecting Iain’s fluency in the language. The afternoon was rounded off with coffee and cake, making it a truly memorable experience.
Deeply moved, Iain later wrote about how much the gesture meant to him. He recalled early visits with Carol, where they often discussed their love of music and the arts. Recognising how much he missed live performance, Carol and Madeleine came together to make the impossible possible. You can read more here.
How does it work?
Once you have registered your interest, the team takes the time to match you based on common interests, lifestyles and experiences. Where possible they keep matches in local communities.
Once you’ve applied, they arrange a very informal interview where you can find out more about the service and they can get to know you better. The onboarding process is straightforward – they ask for two references (these don’t need to be professional/work ones) and they will carry out a PVG (Protection of Vulnerable Adults) Scotland check, the costs of which are covered.
They ask new volunteers to attend two “Shared Learning” sessions (it is called it this because they recognise that everyone brings their own valuable knowledge and life experience):
- First session: In-person, around 3 hours. The session covers the modern hospice movement, how and why Compassionate Neighbours started, who they support, safeguarding, boundaries, lone working, and their matching process.
- Second session: Online, 1.5 hours. Here they look at communication, self-care, and conversations around the concept of a good death.
After training and checks, volunteers are asked to be patient while the right match is found. Sometimes this happens quickly; other times it can take longer. They take into consideration shared interests, values, distance, and any specific requests (such as gender or faith). Sometimes, due to illness, people’s circumstances change before a match can happen, which can add to the wait.
Once matched, visits are usually around one hour a week, either at the person’s home or somewhere outside, depending on preference. Some pairs prefer to meet less often but for longer.
Matches are not time-limited – they last as long as they’re wanted and needed. The first ever match lasted 3 years and 8 months. Unlike many clinical settings where friendships are discouraged, it is actively encouraged if they happen naturally – and they often do, which is wonderful to see.
You can become a compassionate neighbour by committing just one hour of volunteering a week. Alongside the time you spend with your neighbour you will be guided by experts through mentorship and training. As well as connecting with someone in your community, you have the opportunity to meet other Compassionate Neighbours through our regular get-togethers and peer support. You’ll be invited to regular drop-in sessions, hospice training and information sessions and access to counselling and chaplaincy if needed.
Compassionate Gardeners
Compassionate Gardeners runs alongside the neighbours campaign and seeks folk that can offer both companionship and light gardening duties. The programme seeks folk who can offer a little TLC to the gardens of people living at home with an end-of-life diagnosis and help restore them to what they once were. Sharing the joy of the garden through the seasons, Compassionate gardeners add so much to the wellbeing of the garden owners in the most precious of times.
Here’s what some of our current volunteers have said about their experience:
“I thought the idea was that I would visit and offer some good cheer and conversation each week—but it’s me who leaves on a high every time. It’s a tonic for both of us.”
“As I was leaving, Neville said, ‘what a great morning this has been with you visiting’—and I knew he really meant it.”
How to get involved
The Compassionate Neighbours Team are committed to building strong and resilient communities, where local people feel confident to offer social and emotional support in their communities. This is never more important than during times of isolation, deteriorating health, grief, loss or bereavement.
You can apply by clicking this link: Compassionate Neighbours Volunteer – St Columba’s Hospice Palliative Care, Edinburgh or by emailing Dariusz Wedge at DWedge@stcolumbashospice.org.uk or Maggie Young at myoung@stcolumbashospice.org.uk.
Join us for Coffee Morning
On Tuesday 2nd September we will be hosting an extra special Coffee Morning to support St Columba’s work and the Compassionate Neighbours programme. Join us for a warm and meaningful coffee morning as we welcome Dariusz Wedge from St Columba’s Hospice Care to Tribe Porty.
Tribe Members can join us between 10-11AM for extra special croissants and sweet treats. We will have QR codes for you to make direct donations to St Columba’s and you will have the opportunity to connect with Dariusz and ask any questions you may have.
We will then open up to the general public between 11AM-12PM where you can drop in to meet Dariusz and find out more about the programme.
Whether someone has years, months, weeks, or even days left, knowing that someone cares enough to show up can be deeply comforting. And for volunteers, the friendships they form are just as meaningful.
Come along, enjoy a cuppa, meet your fellow Tribe members, and discover how small acts of kindness are helping people live more fully, right up to the end.
The Dead Curious Cafe
If reading the above has stirred unfamiliar emotions, fears, or grief, and you feel the need for open conversation, you’re warmly invited to join Loretta Dunn at The Dead Curious Café.
Open conversations around death and dying are often confined to the realms of bad news, frequently in a medical environment, when the conversation becomes unavoidable. There is merit in normalising the subject of death to open up a wider perspective on the important aspects of living our best life. Many people avoid thinking about death, which can create fear and discomfort. Open discussions help normalise death, making it less of a taboo and allowing people to approach it with more acceptance and peace.
This is a safe and nurturing environment, where participation is encouraged, and mutual respect is a given.
Your facilitator is Loretta Dunn, a Life Celebrant and retired nurse, with many years of experience working with bereaved families and people at the end of life.
- Thursday 4th September
- Thursday 2nd October
- Thursday 6th November
- Thursday 4th December
Thanks for reading,
Alice
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Honoring Your Boundaries
Hello, Boundaries
The demands placed on us (by ourselves and others) can feel overwhelming. By not honoring your boundaries, you risk burnout, stress, and the downfall of our own identity.
Whether you’re working from home, juggling responsibilities, or navigating the blurred lines of hybrid work, setting intentional boundaries is essential for your emotional and physical wellbeing.
“Setting boundaries with others is key in having a strong relationship with yourself.”
– Philippa Perry, The Book You want everyone you love to read
Understanding Boundaries
The Cambridge Dictionary defines a boundary as “a real or imagined line that marks the edge or limit of something.” Boundaries can be physical, psychological, or emotional.
“If we don’t know where we begin (physically, psychologically and metaphorically), how can we possibly know how to protect our ‘space’ and avoid unwanted encroachment into our territory?” – Dr Jane Booth
But why do we struggle to verbalise our work and personal boundaries, especially when they’re crossed?
Questioning your boundaries
To honour your boundaries you must first understand what they are. Boundaries are multilayered and often shifting, making it important to regularly reflect on the different types and how well we honor each in our lives. Emotional boundaries involve respecting your own feelings and emotional energy. Such as expressing how you’d like to receive feedback, protecting your energy in emotionally draining situations, and resisting the urge to absorb others’ moods.
Physical boundaries relate to your personal space, comfort with touch, and physical needs. This might look like preferring a handshake over a hug, skipping social events to recharge, or taking a walk when you need a break.
Mental boundaries protect your thoughts and focus, and include actions like taking time off to recover, setting away messages during deep work, and avoiding the pressure to over-explain your decisions.
Finally, time boundaries help you value and protect how your time is spent. By declining unnecessary meetings, sticking to your work hours, and clearly communicating when your capacity has been reached. Understanding and maintaining these boundaries is key to safeguarding your well-being and sustaining healthy relationships.
Tuning In: A Boundary Check-In
When was the last time you checked in with how you honour your boundaries? 
Try this:
- Rate yourself on each boundary type: Emotional, physical, mental and time (1–5 scale)
- Identify where you feel the most tension or fatigue
- Notice what your body tells you
Boundaries are flexible. They will look different depending on the relationship, context, or stage of life. What’s non-negotiable today might shift next year, or even next week and that’s okay.
Fill in the wheel, which are ranked lowest? Why is this, it could be a specific situation or simply how your energy is presenting at this time. Question what actions you could take to bring the score up. This could be as simple as cancelling a plan to free up some mental space or opening up a conversation with someone you have had a miscommunication or disagreement with.
Boundaries as a Form of Care
By understanding and respecting our own boundaries, we create environments where we feel safe, seen and respected. It’s fundamental to check in with this every so often. Our boundaries will change for different people, and they may shift over time based on personal circumstances.
Through open communication with ourselves and identifying where we lack in our own boundaries we can in turn honour our limits. In doing so, you can take better care of the core of your wellbeing and infuse more meaning and authenticity into our work and relationships.
Boundaries aren’t walls. They’re bridges toward healthier and a stronger connection to yourself.
Tribe Talks
If you would like to learn more about holding space for yourself and your boundaries our next Tribe Talk is for you. We will be joined by Dr Jane Booth. Jane has a passion for people and a creatively curious mind. She loves learning, problem solving and supporting her clients with their own development and growth. Jane can aid in providing the space and time you need to explore solutions and work out the choices ahead of you. Our Tribe Talk will cover the art of creating effective boundaries.
“I fundamentally believe that great people make amazing things happen. We often lose sight of our potential, however, and this can hold us back from achieving what we really want. My role is to help you find your path so you can lead yourself, and others, on your chosen journey.”– Dr Jane Booth
Thanks for reading,
Alice
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The fundamentals of failing
I’ve been thinking a lot about failing recently and actively seeking to do more of it. You could argue I’m trying to rewire my brain to appreciate the fundamentals of failing. Not to brag, but I have a plethora of things I am good at. I’d say, naturally good at… School was easy, university even easier (I mean it was an art degree.) And there it is, did you notice? Something I’ve also been very, very good at is downplaying my achievements.
Failure is emotional but necessary
For me, failure feels gut-wrenching, upsetting, and deeply emotional. I know I don’t take criticism well (sorry, Dani), but I also struggle to fully appreciate my successes. When I accomplish something, my mind often jumps to dismissive thoughts: “Anyone could do that,” or “So-and-so could do it better.” This persistent self-doubt is often called ‘arrival fallacy’, the illusion that reaching a goal will bring lasting satisfaction. Or, even more frustratingly, the dreaded and well known ‘imposter syndrome.’
The reason this has been on my mind recently all started with a 10K trail run. I have enjoyed running now for 4-5 years, it’s something that brings me calmness and joy. It helps me notice the seasons change, be around nature and my thoughts. Despite this, I’ve always had a fear around trail running and something I would blame my body for not being up to.
Letting go of external validation
Anyone who sat with me for lunch over the past couple of months at some point will have heard me tell a derisive story about my partner’s parents signing me up for a 10K trail run at Glentress. This particular run covered 300 meters of elevation in the first 5KM, and let me tell you, it was cold at the top. Despite being full of dread masked in my humor and sarcasm, I went along with my only goal being to cross the finish line.
Within the first ten minutes of running, I was quickly at the back of the pack. Clearly, I was surrounded by very serious runners. A man in his 70s jogged alongside me and jeered, “I think we will be seeing a lot of each other.” He wasn’t wrong. I stomped my way up the hill, taking in the views along the way, slowly slid my way across the top avoiding ice patches, and threw snowballs at my friend. On the descent, the sun came out, and it was magic. I looked up at the trees, took in some deep breaths, and quickly made my way to the finish line. I did it, and I came dead last.
“I felt my lungs inflate with the onrush of scenery—air, mountains, trees, people. I thought, “This is what it is to be happy.” Sylvia Plath
Finding joy in the process, not just the outcome
Would I do it again knowing I would come last? Yes! This could be the first time in my life where I was elated to fail. I did not give a rat’s arse about anyone else or their stats. All that mattered was the feelings I had along the way and the fact that I crossed the finish line!
Failure is misunderstood, and we avoid it at all costs. But to achieve and to grow, we must first fail. Our obsession with failure allows our failures to define us and keeps us from trying and from being open to experiences. On the other hand, when we do achieve, it is all too easy to downplay or minimize our accomplishments.
“Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.” Maya Angelou
To live well, we must remain open, curious, and most importantly, vulnerable.
Embracing discomfort and uncertainty
The truth is, failure is only failure if we allow it to be. What if we reframe it as learning, as progress, as proof that we are stretching ourselves beyond the confines of comfort? What if we measured our successes not by external validation but by our own growth, by how much we dared to show up even when we weren’t sure of the outcome?
That trail run wasn’t about time or placement, it was about pushing myself to go that bit further, about showing up even when I was certain I’d struggle. And in that struggle,I found joy in simply being in motion.
So maybe failure isn’t the thing to avoid, it’s the thing to chase. The more we appreciate the fundamentals of failing, the more we grow, the more we truly live. And that, to me, feels like the greatest success of all.
“Show me a man who has never made a mistake, and I will show you one who has never tried anything.” Albert Einstein
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Alice
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Nourishment
To know how to feel nourished is fundamental to our wellbeing. Nourishment comes in many forms, not only physically but mentally and emotionally. On the surface, nourishment can take the form of foods, from the way we eat to where we eat and who with. As well as sustenance, food is a great way to gather people and nurture in person connections.
Community
Beyond food, our sense of community can be one of the most profound sources of nourishment. When you find yourself surrounded by people who support, challenge, and uplift us creates a space for growth and belonging. Whether it’s spending time with family, working alongside colleagues, or participating in shared activities, these connections nourish our spirit. In a world that can often feel isolating or fast-paced, finding and being part of a community is more important than ever.
For others, nourishment comes in the form of quiet moments of solitude and reflection, a time to rest, recharge and refocus. You might find it in a quiet moment of meditation, reading a book that inspires us, or spending time in nature.
Finding nourishment
As we move into the darker months of winter, knowing how to nourish ourselves becomes even more essential. The cold, dark days can feel draining. Many people, especially in places like the UK, associate winter with a reduction in energy and happiness. The shorter days often bring a sense of anxiety or dread. This makes it easy to fall into the trap of doing less and feeling less nourished.
How to Winter: Harnessing Your Mindset to Thrive in Cold, Dark, or Difficult Times suggests that winter can be a season of opportunity if we shift our mindset. It encourages us to embrace winter as a time for restoration, inviting us to transform darkness into an asset. By finding activities to look forward to that align with the season, we can see winter as a season of restoration and opportunity.
“Do something that you can look forward to that takes advantage of the darkness and turns it into an asset”-Kari Leibowitz
Undoubtedly nourishment is about taking care of our minds and souls. What activities help you feel restored? When we prioritize these practices, we acknowledge that our well-being is not just about what we consume, but also how we nurture our inner beings. There’s no right or wrong way to find nourishment; what’s important is understanding your own needs and making the time to practice what brings us joy and fulfillment.
Each of us has different ways to nourish our body, mind, and soul, and this month offers a chance to explore what fills us up in all areas of life.
An invitation to gather
The Story Sessions is back! Tribe Porty is collaborating with Soapbox to bring an evening of storytelling, join us on November 8th from 6pm to gather, to be inspired, to be heard, to tell and to listen to stories.
The theme is Nourishment – How do you feel nourished? Is it through food? Being in community? With family and friends? How do we nourish our body, mind and soul?
This session we will be treated to a menu of canapés from Còmhla, a luxury dining company founded by friends Helena and Joanna in Edinburgh. Brought together over a passion for wild natural Scottish ingredients, Còmhla’s philosophy is to celebrate the seasonal. With a deep-felt desire to sustain both environment and community, all that Còmhla does is driven by creativity, consideration and social-consciousness.
Tickets for this event are pay-what-you-can to feed back in to our communities. Click here to find out more and book your space.
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Holding Space
Meet Loretta
We wanted to take this month’s blog as an opportunity to introduce you to Life Celebrant, Death Doula and friend of Tribe, Loretta Dunn. Loretta has a special interest in living well and dying well. Her journey so far has included a long career in nursing and midwifery, she is a member of The Institute for the Study of Birth, Breath and Death, and an EASE Facilitator (end of life aid skills for everyone) with the Scottish Partnership for Palliative Care. She is passionate about bringing death out of the shadows as a means of helping us to live our best life in the present moment.
Compassion and love are at the heart of her work. Loretta recently reached out to us to express her interest in running The Death Curious Cafe at Tribe Porty. Simply put, this gathering is an open invitation to gather and discuss mortality in a supportive and progressive way.
What is a Death Cafe?
Death Cafes first launched in Switzerland in 2004 and have since spread around the world. This has been encouraged through a growing number of folks moving towards death positivity and away from death denial. The key of this is that through understanding and welcoming our own mortality we improve the quality of our lives. As a society, it is more valuable than ever to hold space for conversations about death. A survey by the charity Dying Matters reveals that more than 70 per cent of us are uncomfortable talking about death and that less than a third of us have spoken to family members about end-of-life wishes.
Holding Space
In the UK, the topic of death is avoided due to a combination of cultural, psychological, and social factors. Many of us not only fear death itself but the potential pain, loss of control, and uncertainty it brings. Psychologically, people often engage in death denial to shield themselves from these anxieties.
In the book, Continuing Bonds: New Understandings of Grief, the authors and researchers challenge traditional views on grief which emphasise the need for detachment. The authors argue that grief is not about “letting go”. Rather it is about finding a new way to incorporate the presence of the deceased into one’s life. This could be in the form of personal rituals, keeping mementos and maintaining an inner dialogue with the loved one.
You can see this approach manifest itself through modern technology with the keeping of ‘memorial profiles’. Continuing bonds and having open dialogue around death has become an essential part of death doulas work and perhaps an important key to reopening the conversation around death and grief.
“The goal of grief is not to sever bonds, but to reweave them into the fabric of life.”-Continuing Bonds
The importance of community
There are many cultures that have religious or spiritual rituals that provide the building blocks for both accepting and preparing for death. In the past, even in the UK, death was a communal experience with both community members and family taking an active role in end-of-life care and rituals. Philosophical traditions, such as Stoicism or Buddhism, death is seen as an inevitable part of life, and whether it happens early or late is simply a fact of existence, not necessarily a matter of fairness.
Due to the breakdown of close-knit community structures and families often living far apart, death has been removed from everyday life and conversation. Thus encouraging an environment where it is easier to avoid and therefore removing any sentiment of acceptance or feelings of fairness.
Advances in medical technology have also shifted the perception of death to be something that can and should be delayed. In the UK the percentage of people who died in hospital in 2022 was 43.4%. Arguably this contributes to the notion that death is something to be resisted or “fixed,” rather than embraced as a natural end.
Of course the practice of guidance is not new and death is not an unknown phenomenon. A certified end-of-life doula, Christy Marek suggests that the lack of community ties in today’s society has led to the lack of conversations around death and resulted in the overwhelming need to contract a trained professional.
“In America, a few generations ago, our communities were doing this work,” she said. “The reason the role is showing up in a formalised way now is that we don’t have those community ties any more, not in the same way, and certainly not the same level of responsibility to each other as used to be woven into our communities.”- Christy Marek
The place of a Doula
Doulas help to relive these challenges and open up the conversation in a relaxed and informal way. Something we must also consider is that death denial is the overwhelming norm, our individual wishes for end of life care are not considered until late on. The result is that people struggle to have their wishes fulfilled.
All of the above contributes to a whole host of anxieties, the biggest problem being that we will never achieve a “good death”, one that aligns with our own values, desires and needs. This is a big conversation and one that cannot be fixed into one blog post, but we can certainly hold the space for it. When we are willing to take responsibility for our life, we can make peace with death.
An invitation to hold space
Join Loretta for our first Death Cafe on 24/10/24, she will also be joining us at Tribe for Social Lunch on 03/10/24. This will be a safe environment for sharing and exploring a deeper understanding of spiritual wellbeing for living well to die well over tea, coffee and cake. This is a pay-what-you-can event with a £5 suggested donation. Click here to find out more and book your space.
“Love has triumphed from the enfoldment of my inner circle—my closest friends and family. Engaging in open conversations about life and death has woven tighter bonds among us. Death, a shared human experience often wrapped in silence, has become a pivotal topic of our discussions. Through this, I’ve gained invaluable insights about the inevitable but more so about how to live.”-Dani Trudeau on conversations about death
Thanks for reading,
Alice
Read more: Exploring the evolution of grief & Living longer
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Tribe Talks Sustainability
Tribe Talks are starting back up in September, the theme for our first quarter is Sustainability and we will be joined by Boom Saloon, Adam McGibbon, LifeMosaic and WildFish.
The goal of Tribe Talks is to bring together bright minds, and interesting topics, that can help foster inspiration, provoke conversations that matter, and help to educate our community to do better, and be better.
We selected sustainability as our initial focus because many of our members are actively involved in this field. When choosing speakers, we aimed to cover key aspects of sustainability—social, environmental, and economic. Each session includes a Q&A, providing a valuable and actionable way to explore how we can contribute to a better world. The Q&A sessions will encourage group discussions, giving you the chance to delve deeper into each subject. Through this guidance, we hope to to ease any negative feelings towards the subject.
We’ll also steer each talk away from the typical doom-and-gloom narrative often associated with sustainability and climate change. Instead, we’ll emphasize facts and actionable solutions. By covering a variety of topics, we aim to highlight environmental success stories. In addition, we seek to discuss impactful environmental policies and government actions. In turn we hope to help you feel empowered in your personal efforts.
Meet our guest speakers
Rachel Arthur-Boom Saloon
Boom Saloon is a global media movement to democratise creativity for good, driven by international members.
They explore the UN’s Sustainable Development Goals through the lens of creativity, across print publications, online features, newsletters and events. This work supports a series of community projects which inspire and empower people facing challenges.
Rachel Arthur, founder and editor of Boom Saloon invites you to an insightful, behind the scenes talk. She will share how boom saloon has evolved to explore the UN’s Sustainable Development Goals through the lens of creativity – bringing together a global community of members working together to democratise creativity for good.
Adam McGibbon- Oil Change International
Adam McGibbon is a campaigner and strategist. Currently, he works with Oil Change International. His primary focus is on a campaign to end the flow of money from major governments, pledging to take action and shift billions into clean energy instead. Adam has also ran a campaign to get the UK Government to stop using billions of taxpayers money to finance fossil fuels overseas, from 2017-20.
Prior to this, Adam worked as an election campaigns manager for climate-friendly politicians. Adam’s Tribe talk focuses on 2013 when he took up a risky job in becoming Campaign Manager for Caroline Lucus, the UK’s only Green MP. Caroline Lucus was out to defend her Brighton parliamentary seat for the first time in 2015, with a wafer-thin majority. Lucas is re-elected with a large majority over her closest rival, in a huge turnaround that arguably saved the Green Party during a fragile time. Adam’s talk shares the inner workings to reveal how the campaign was won.
Serge Marti-LifeMosaic
Indigenous peoples protect 85% of the worlds biological and cultural diversity, through ancestral knowledge and practices that nurture diversity, spirituality, interconnection and collective approaches. Indigenous peoples and their territories are also under threat, from the high speed growth of giant extractive industries, infrastructure development, homogenous education and belief systems, as well as the spread of internet and social media. On the whole, these processes lead to monoculture, materialism, disconnection, and individualism, all of which are at the heart of the global polycrisis (the great clusterf**k).
LifeMosaic supports movements to defend nature and culture. They particularly support indigenous peoples movements to reflect on and vision their role and contribution at a time of eco-system collapse and climate chaos. As well as sharing some lessons of their work, Serge would love to hear your thoughts about the importance of movements to defend nature and culture, and how best to nurture these in Scotland.
Rachel Mulrenan- WildFish
Wild fish populations are collapsing as their habitats are destroyed faster than anything else. In the UK, most of our rivers fail to reach ecological targets. Open net salmon farming is ravaging wild salmon and sea trout. All fish are threatened by abstraction, barriers, and pollution.
Salmon has become one of the most popular dishes in restaurants and at home, but its popularity has come at a cost for the environment, fish welfare and the health of the planet. Almost all the salmon we eat is farmed. Scotland is one of the world’s largest producers of farmed salmon, but how much do we know about the realities of this industry taking place in our waters?
In this talk, Rachel will give an overview of the Scottish salmon farming industry – what it is, and how it impacts on the health of fish, people and planet. She will give a short introduction to WildFish’s Off the table campaign, which calls on chefs, restaurants and consumers to stop serving, buying or eating farmed salmon, and open a discussion about what a future in Scotland could look like without the salmon farming industry.
Book your space
We hope to see you at one of our Tribe Talks this year. Our mental and physical health, as well as the strength of our communities, is undoubtedly tied to our natural and built environments. Promoting sustainability in any form helps to lay the groundwork for environments in which we can thrive. More importantly, doing so also conserves resources for future generations. We hope that this series can help channel your curiosity and desire for better in a positive and productive way.
You can view the full series of talks and book your space by clicking here. If you have any questions, or would like to book a space to a sold out talk please contact us: more@tribeporty.org or call 0131 258 3471.
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Alice
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Hello, how are you?
Friendships and community are integral to our wellbeing and a good conversation can leave us feeling understood, energised and revived.
Losing community
Friendships and community are integral to our wellbeing. Despite this, I’ve noticed a similar narrative amongst friends, coworkers and folk posting online. This is that friendships are hard to come by and even harder to keep. In adult life, friendships require a certain amount of dedication and maintenance. Unfortunately, we often do not have time or even the energy needed to support the functioning of a good friendship.
As we age and grow priorities to shift, we get busier and life provides less opportunities for connection which become harder to come by if we let them slip away. Long term friendships require consistency, an ongoing dance of give and take.
Science has repeatedly studied and proved that friendships bring us a wealth of benefits. From keeping us mentally and physically healthy to improving our creativity and even reducing our blood pressure. So why don’t we value and maintain social connections as much as we should?
Modern life is often fast-paced and demanding, leaving little time for nurturing relationships. The rise of digital communication can create a false sense of connection, reducing face-to-face interactions. The pressures of work and daily responsibilities can make it challenging to invest in social connections, even when we recognize their importance.
Bridging connections
Humans have a fundamental need for interaction. Conversations connect us, sparking new ways of thinking, resonating with our emotions, and building bridges between us. However, we each require different levels of social connections and companionship.
A meaningful conversation blends opinions, experiences, and ideas. When a natural state of flow is achieved, it opens the heart and forges genuine connection. In essence, conversation links us together, and nurturing it involves genuine curiosity. To engage in meaningful conversation it is important to have interest in the people you encounter daily, ask questions, and avoid ending sentences in a closed manner.
By definition, conversation is improvisational. As we engage in dialogue, we uncover new aspects of ourselves. At its best, a conversation bridges the gap between our physical selves and our minds. A good conversation leaves us wanting more, with questions still unresolved. I’m sure I can vouch for many Triber’s that our weekly Social Lunch has left us with this feeling as we often attempt to put the world to rights!
Place and time
So how do we in the busy modern day seek physical spaces where we can find ourselves lost in conversation? Social connections require a special kind of place. A place where yourself and others have time, freedom and capacity to get lost in conversation. Third Spaces, a term coined by the sociologist Ray Oldenburg, are spaces beyond work and home. A sacred space where we can interact both freely and casually.
“Life without community has produced, for many, a life style consisting mainly of a home-to-work-and-back-again shuttle. Social well-being and psychological health depend upon community.”- Ray Oldenburg
Modern commodities and capitalism have led to a scarcity of third spaces. A true Third Space is a physical place where you are under no obligation to be there and the presence of a “regular” is more than welcome. Though rare, these spaces are essential to neighborhoods and can significantly enhance quality of life, well-being, and health.
This is why free events, like Tribe Talks, are so vital to Tribe as a community coworking space. We continuously seek new and exciting ways to welcome the wider community into our space because community is at the heart of Tribe. Our commitment to inclusivity and engagement drives us to host a variety of events, workshops, and social gatherings that cater to diverse interests and needs. By doing so, we aim to create a vibrant, supportive environment where ideas can flourish, collaborations can emerge, and everyone feels a sense of belonging.
Finding your community
As with everything, it is about finding a balance but also actively engaging and seeking the types of connections you crave. According to British anthropologist Robin Dunbar, the “magic number” for an individual’s community is 150. That’s 150 connections that make up your social network. Dunbar split’s these connections into different circles, or you could call it communities. The most important circle being the ‘inner’, this includes family and long term friendships. The rings extend outwards from there and include distant friends, fleeting friends, coworkers and folk who you occasionally cross paths with. This could include people met in a pub or coffee shop, people you pass on walks or places of common interest.
“What determines these layers in real life, in the face-to-face world… is the frequency at which you see people,” says Dunbar. “You’re having to make a decision every day about how you invest what time you have available for social interaction, and that’s limited.”
What I appreciate about Dunbar’s theory is its emphasis on the importance of cultivating depth in our communities, friendships and community are integral to our wellbeing . It’s not just about having close friends and deep relationships; the acquaintances and casual connections that come and go in our lives are equally vital to our daily health and happiness. It also highlights the importance of finding and frequenting places to nurture these relationships. Psychologist Holt-Lunstad similarly concluded that being within a large supportive social network reduces the risk of mortality after a chronic illness by an enormous 50%.
Your attention is a gift
Making friends isn’t that different from when we were kids, the only difference is intention. Making new friendships should be both interesting and fulfilling, stay curious! Intention is also important when selecting where to dedicate your time. At the forefront of coworking is community, the beauty of coworking is the people you meet and the connections you make. Creating and actively participating in in-person events can increase a sense of connection. Choose the places you visit with the intention of gravitating towards people and, with some time, social connections will form (and maybe even a new friendship.)
When we talk about curiosity it is also beautiful to remember that our attention is a gift. Engage with conversations actively and ask questions, maybe pop your phone to the side too! Through this self awareness we can become more approachable and friendly, in turn the people we engage with will return the favour.
“The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated”-William James
Thanks for reading,
Alice
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