It is a wonderful thing, to feel like you are becoming more

by Dani Trudeau


I am resisting the pull of writing about my New Year’s intentions. We have heard it all before and there seems to be equal camps of pro resolutioners and anti resolutioners. Instead, I thought I would try and write about the uncomfortable – but ultimately positive – process of taking on something new.

First of all, the real power is finding what works for you. Be it an app for helping you achieve your goals or a friend, a group, whatever. More to the point, the motivation is the key, the ways to get there are individual and you can be as creative as you like. And maybe, right now, you are perfectly happy just where you are (although I think those moments are rare and fleeting-enjoy it).

If you want to become more, if you need to shake off a limiting shell, here’s a helpful way to think about it: be more lobster.

“The stimulus for the lobster to be able to grow is that it feels uncomfortable. Now, if lobsters had doctors, they would never grow because as soon as the lobster feels uncomfortable, goes to the doctor, gets a Valium, gets a Percocet, feels fine, never casts off his shell. I think that we have to realize that times of stress are also times that are signals for growth, and if we use adversity properly, we can grow through adversity.” – Rabbi Dr. Abraham Twerski

Most of the time, my motivations are that I love learning new things, challenging myself and seeing how I can become more than I am right now. Sometimes this life feels too short for all that I want to try and do. Don’t get me wrong though, I spend plenty of time wrestling with the fears, the disbeliefs and the feeling of being stuck before the unknown. But I hold to the fact that those feelings are all very normal.

The funny thing about new growth, learning and capability is that we often have to put in a lot of work to gain access to them. Then, once we have them, it feels so easy, or obvious, or simple, and we forget about how hard we had to work to get them. We might even feel a bit silly for not having always thought like this or being able to do it.

Remember that you’ve made it easy by putting in the hard work. Be more lobster – be more you.